When a mediation takes a turn for the better, why is it?  Sometimes there are key, identifiable moments -- surprising and fortuitous.  This blog seeks to highlight some of those moments in the hope they may provide helpful lessons.

June 14, 2017

In a mediation, key moments of progress often happen when the parties discover they actually have some things in common -- say two business people find that they have a shared hobby or two contesting neighbors discover that they both have had to navigate the challenges of a child with developmental issues.

Why is this?  What is it about finding something in common with the person we are fighting...

May 13, 2017

In late 1995, the United States, Republic of Ireland, and United Kingdom called upon a retired U.S. senator by the name of George Mitchell to chair the struggling peace process in Northern Island -- a bitter, deadlocked dispute for which few people had much hope. 

Yet in just a matter of months, we will mark 20 years since the signing of the Good Friday Agreement, which led to that conf...

April 13, 2017

Do you know the difference between mediation and arbitration? If the answer is no, this post is for you. We're going to take a brief look at each one, how they compare, and which one I personally often think is better.

First, let's look at arbitration.

Every once in a while, I am called upon to arbitrate lemon-law cases. That's when a consumer has purchased a vehicle and, in the ensuing weeks or months, decides the c...

March 11, 2017

How does one break from a pattern of thinking?

This comes up often in mediation -- and it's not easy, especially when it concerns age-old conflicts, started long ago, often in another generation: Our fathers fought...and their fathers fought...and so must we. It could be never ending -- much like the Hatfields and McCoys.

Yet is this inevitable? Do historic fights have to go on forever? Is each ne...

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Joshua Mendes is a certified mediator and has overseen over 50 mediations and lectured on the topic in the U.S. and overseas.


He received basic mediation training at Columbia University, advanced mediation training through the NY State Unified Court System, and advanced commercial mediation training at the NY City Bar Association.


He received his B.A. from Dartmouth College and an M.P.A. from Harvard's Kennedy School of Government. He is a member of the Association for Conflict Resolution. 


For questions on mediation, please contact him at: mendesmediation@gmail.com.

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